Who takes care who ...

Sometimes, I have problems understanding some practices among malays, and perhaps other races, regarding marriage life. When I was a kid, I used to see women, including those in my family, help out men at workplace, be it at paddy fields, kedai runcit, vegetable farms, workshops, Quranic classes, etc, etc. Of course, they also cooked, 'fed' the husbands, looked after the kids, washed the clothes, swept the floor, scrubed the bathroom, looked after the cows and chickens, sometimes pets, went to the market, looked after the elderly, sent kids to school .. the list goes on and on.
Most of the women I knew also had their own 'professional' jobs like sowing, knitting, drawing batik and bertenun besides normal office jobs as govt servants, teachers, etc, etc. During the busy hours of the women, the men were usually having their siestas, lepaking at kampung cafes, watching TVs, playing dam aji, splashing in the river nearby, polishing honda cubs or raleigh bicyle, talking to pet birds, the list went on and on. In this new era, although few decades have passed, not much change actually happened. Most men still have to fed and pampered, women do most of the jobs, including bringing in the money. In Islam, among the purposes of marriages, is for men to protect and take care after women. And because of that, men should be regarded as leaders of the family. In practice, the truth is a far cry from that. And for that reason, I wonder if it's ok if women be appointed as the leaders of the family, as they seem to be the stronger species. I'm sure God is fair and He sees and listens and sure knows what happens.
Why am I talking about this? I'm lucky to have a loving, caring and responsible husband, who does most of the things. So, why the complaint? I read a news about a 100 over grandma who married a 30 something guy, so that the guy 'can take care of her'. But she said in a report, she cooks, irons, washes, bla, bla, bla for the guy. I wonder if she also has to work to put food on the table. Now, who takes care, who needs to be taken care? I'm really pissed of.

Chicken pox or what ..

Sy had spots all over his face and upper body and we thought he was having chicken pox. Prior to that, he'd had fever for four days. So we went buy calamine lotion and semambu soap and also to see a doctor which confirmed it was chicken pox. But yesterday, the spots dissapeared. I wonder ... was it because we bathed him using the semambu soap? I'm sort of relief, because he's only 6 months old. But I'm quite worried too. A, when she was about one year old, also had spots which dissapeared for about one week to only return back as real chicken pox. I wonder what was that ... chicken pox, or some allergic reaction.
Today, he's back to himself, smiling, baby-talking and busy touching things.

I wish I were rich...

After a two-week leave, I feel so lazy to come to work. How nice if I could get more days. My brothers' wedding went on as planned, small and more 'family-oriented' :) ... maybe due to lack of fund eh. A enjoyed her balik kampung so much, so did her grandpa and grandma. I could see they were very happy to have us around. My son, Sy, also enjoyed lots of attention. Too bad, the attention had to stop there. Now that we are back in KL, attention is so limited. So used to having been picked up and carried around for about about two weeks, he must feel a bit abandoned when most of time now, he has to be contented playing only with his rattle while observing me doing household chores or errr ... sleeping .
A is so tan she actually looks like we just came back from beach holiday. She had sure been the centre of attention in Trg as she's the first cucu at my side. In fact, I can see she has become a bit spoilt. Back there, she bullied her tok and aki and most of the time, got away with it. And I also let her be as I go home only three or four times a year. So nevermind lah. Let her be and let my parents be ... so long they are happy. Trg is really so hot during these few months. Nevertheless, I enjoyed every bit of it. It's my hometown.
We also spent few days in Malacca. Although we go back to Malacca at least once a month, We never really spent more than two or three days there. So this time, we spent almost four days, and that could almost make my mother-in-law breathless as she moved around the house doing this and that. Most of the time, I feel guilty if I stay more than three days as this will make her move even more. She has asthma, and being busy may worsen her condition. But being active, she just can't just sit and relax. A also gives her more things to do. Mess up the living room and bathroom, bullying he pak su, asking to be bathed, blablabla. I cautiously enjoyed my holiday day too. Cautiously, due my in-laws asthmatic condition .....
And now, I'm back here, staring at this computer, thinking about headings, rewriting, wondering about what kinds of illustration to use ... How boring ... but life must go on eh ... and work also must go on ...
Looking forward to our next vacation.