Bossy daugther, clinging son

Sy was nine months old on July 28, going 10 months. He's growing cuter and looking more like the father. hehehe ... of course I would say that, he's my son and the father is my partner. Both of them are always cute to my eyes. So is my daughter. So cute, and very naughty too. A is quite fluent for her age. Sometimes, I wish she talked like other kids her age do. Kids should be kids. A 2-year over kid like A should have cuteness in the way she talks. A talks quite perfect, tak pelat. There were many occasions she sounded almost adult, I felt funny and sometimes weird ...

Am just came back from work and was holding a plastics bag with few magazines inside. A was 'releasing' herself in her 'toilet' (diapers) (she is still toilet-training) and saw the father.

A: Beli buku ke?

Am: Tak, beli majalah je.

A: Bak sini, A pinjam jap.

Am: A tgh berak kan. Nanti la.

A: Bak la sini. Pinjam jap je ....


She's quite bossy too.

It was about 12pm on one working day. And I was watching TV and planning to do the cooking after the drama finished. A and Sy were playing. Suddenly, she looked at me.

A: Ibu tak masak ke?

Me: Sat la. Nanti habis cerita ni masak la.

A: Ibu pegi masak!

Me: Sat la. Nanti masak la.

A: Ibu masak lah. (And she started to cry).

Me: ??????


A loves to sing. I've bought her a nursery song VCD and she sees it almost every other day. She likes to tell stories too. She makes up her own stories from the illustration she sees in her kindergarten books. No, she hasn't gone to kindergarten yet. But I've bought her some simple ABC books. I think schooling for her will only start after she's five. Sometimes, I'm afraid she'll be left behind as her cousions gone to school when they were four. But Am is pretty sure A will catch up with the lesson well. And I must agree too.

Sy is brigther and naughtier too. He eats whatever he picks from the floor. So, I have to be extra careful. He's fussier too, like refuse to sleep early. Plus, he like to scream when demanding attention, especially when they see us getting ready to go out and he's still there on the floor. Well, he can walk but not without clinging to things. Maybe, he's afraid he'll be left behind. You know, sometimes parents forget they have babies at home.

I may have two nieces/nephews next year. My youngest brother's wife is also pregnant, I assume, about a month. That would be nice. I never had my own anak sedara. Miss my parents too. They'll come to visit me this month, but they said there were not sure when. Maybe I'll ask for couple of days off.

These days I have to be careful with what I write here. Not to make comment on things and people or government issues, or else I may get sued. Well, I don't have problem with that. I pretty much agree there must be regulations on how people conduct their blogs. Freedom of expression must always come with responsibilities. Whoever says we're actually free to do and say whatever we like? Doesn't this world come with laws and orders? What's the use of having laws if we don't actually follow? What's the point of free expression if we can't live freely and in peace. If humans are left to do whatever they will, I'm sure the only thing that prevail the most is their dark and ugly side. These days, people think what's bad is actually cool. Decent girls are considered boring and hypocrites. Funny ... what's actually hypocrisy ... of course we have to be hypocrite sometimes. If we just do whatever our hearts tell us to, then imagine what would happen. Men have good and bad side. Most of the time, maybe we just want to hug and kiss others. But there are some occasions when we feel like kicking and slapping them. Should we just go ahead and do just that? Well, we don't want to be hypocrite, do we?

On another issue, the other day, one young woman was allegedly raped and murdered. Her remain was beyond recognition. She wore tudung. And feminists would say, look she wore tudong, but still the bad targeted her. And that's the more reason for women to wear anything they like as as they feel what they wear doesn't cause anything. I'm sick when people act 'lepas tangan' but urges others like the government to take action. Sometimes, they forget, many factors contribute to the rise of rape crime. And it takes everybody to play their role, including women. The criminal may not need to see the poor young woman naked to trigger him to do what he did. He may have gotten some triggers somewhere else, like on TV or video and in clubs. He may have just stumbled upon a very undecently dressed lady and gotten aroused but spared his acts on the lady due to wrong timing and place. Then somewhere else, he chanced onto the poor young woman who was decently dressed, but was in right timing and place for him to act. I am of the opinion women's lifestyle this day, including dressing sense, does contribute to the rising number of rape crimes. And of course there are other factors too like what media carry and lack of religious knowledge. And above all, of course the bad guys themselves. They're the actual devils.
But we can't give any chance this day, with many sick minds around. We have to do whatever we can and can't just ask others to take action. And maybe for a start, we just need to look at ourselves and try not to do or act in a way that can trigger the sick minds. Bear in mind, others may have to pay the price for whatever we've done, because they're in wrong times and places. They could be our own mothers, daugthers, friends, relatives, etc, etc. So let's not give reason.

Al-Fatihah for Zalini.